Ask Minerva #3
Dear Minerva,
I am writing because I have been so frustrated lately and can’t keep my cool. It’s like any little thing sets me off, even if it’s not that big of a deal. I don’t want to keep being so angry, and I can tell people are noticing too. How do I stop being so angry all the time? I don’t want to be a person with a short temper.
Yours,
Trying My Best
Dear Trying My Best,
First things first, props to you for realizing that there’s an issue here! It can take a LOT for a person to even realize that there might be an evident issue regarding emotion or anything of the sort. This also ties in how our feelings and behaviors might project onto others. If others are realizing this change in behavior or you feel like they might be noticing, taking the moment to consider how it might impact them can be a step in the right direction.
The central key to coping with these emotions is by being mindful and present in the moment. Anger is a secondary emotion. Rarely do people ever feel angry just for the sake of being angry; there is almost always a cause. Try to identify where this anger stems from, what caused it, why it’s manifested in this moment. If you start noticing a pattern as to what triggers the feeling, you can start finding solutions to mitigate your reaction to trigger or even the trigger itself.
Overall, if you feel like there’s a deep-rooted issue that’s unexplainable, I’d recommend seeking a professional’s opinion on the matter! No one deserves to feel like they aren’t in control of their temper or how they feel, and I can understand why you might worry as to how others feel as well. Your motivation to improve upon these things just goes to show that you can make the change! I wish you the best of luck, and I implore you to find support in your personal life. You’re on the right path!
Sweetest regards,
Minerva Gulp
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